Bullying

There is so much about bullying in the media recently and it breaks my heart.  There are so many young people living in hell every day. I had a horrible time in school due to being bullied. I used to wake up in the morning before school and cry BECAUSE I woke up.

There is nothing as  isolating as bullying.  I become so used to people picking on me that I couldn’t recognise when someone was being friendly or kind.  I doubted myself and others intentions. Because of this my whole view of the world became skewed. Instead of a balanced life view I believed that everyone was out to hurt me, that the world was dangerous and hurtful.  And that I was worthless.  I accidentally conjured up a word ‘worthyful’ which was a slip of the tongue but fit how I felt perfectly.  Like a mixture of worthy, worthwhile and beautiful, it seemed to be everything I was not.  I know now that is not true- not true for anyone.  You are “worthyful” and people are  kind.  Life is not all hard corners and sharp edges.

I recently found my diary from when I was at school and it is just full of a desperate sadness and fear that no child or young person should feel.

“It’s all the little things that make it worse, like walking in the class and everyone goes silent or in class talking loudly about me and looking and smirking.”

“School is in two days.  I know I have to go, I won’t try to get out of it.  But I think of school every minute of every day and it makes my stomach sick, loses my energy.  I just laugh because I am supposed to laugh, I cry at sad films because I have to cry.  I have no emotions left, except fear about school.  I have years left.”

12 Year old me and 17 year old me

I look back on it now and I cannot believe how miserable I was.  Every day felt like a nightmare.  I had no hope, no confidence and no self-belief.  It gets better! Every day better and better. Now I can do things I never would have believed possible.  I can speak to strangers. I can laugh and mean it.  I can talk in front of groups or dance. I can go after the things I want and get them. I can stand in a group of people and still know who I am.  I have hope and curiosity and interest in a world that is kind and quirky and full of stories.  And I believe that I have value, that my story is worthwhile and I am “worthyful” .

My heart goes out to anyone experiencing bullying of any kind.   If you are one of the MANY MANY people being bullied please talk about it.  You can do it online, to a teacher, an adult or a friend.  All I can say is it gets better.  People get better.  Life gets better and you are “worthyful”.

Emma Watson, Robert Pattinson, Sandra Bullock, Tom Cruise, Miley Cyrus, Prince Harry, Lady Gaga, Chris Colfer and Brian McFadden are just SOME of the celebrities who were bullied.

Links to help if you are being bullied:

Cyberbullying help:

Cybermentors : Young people helping each other

Tips on dealing with cyber bullying

About.com’s section on cyber bullying

What facebook can do if you are being bullied  – They say DON’T respond, DON’T keep it secret and document it

Insafe – help

Cyberbullying resources -Fact sheets, lesson plans and guides and tips for teens, teachers and parents.

Links to help if you are being bullied in Ireland:

Reach out – what to do

Trinity’s Anti-Bullying Campaign

Bully4u

Anti-Bullying Ireland

SchoolDays.ie 

Barnardos Ireland

About Bullying and resources

Bullying.org

Toolkits for parents and teachers

Bullying Stories – dealing with bullying from an adult perspective

International STAND UP to bullying day

Standing up to bullying in school – how to organise/tips etc

 

I love how teenagers are standing up to bullying these days- the internet is so much more than cyber bullying. Watch this:

And this I love – just cos he’s a ginge 🙂

 

Just for fun:

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